Sunday, June 7, 2009

How to Mend After a Break Up- The 4 Rules

After your relationship ends, or your going through a divorce, The idea of getting back out to the dating world can be frightening to you and your children .Taking time to heal, is the best way to mend after a breakup . You have to be mentally and emotionally prepared to date again. This is the most important parts, of dating, after you have split from your partner. This can be quite dramatic ,especially if children are involved. They suffer as well, so be careful with the decision that you make. If you and your ex had been together for sometime, children don't adapt too fast to a break up. This is where you need the help of a therapist and family members for support. Take each day as it comes. When your ready to get back out there into the dating world you will know ! Divorce ,or any other break up can put a toll on a person's self-esteem. You might blame yourself for the break up, feel that your a failure, or wonder where did you go wrong. It can really drag you through the mud. Only time will heal what you are feeling . Go and do something for yourself. Feeling guilty is not the way ,especially if your not the one who started the break up. So build your self-esteem do the things that you like to do. Get the girls and do the spa thing. If your a male get with your buddies. Getting out and about is good . You won't run into Brad Pitt or Angelina jolie hanging around the house. (there's a slim chance that you will anyhow) You have to get back out there and join the crowd. Ask some of your friends if they know any available single people. Just having fun helps out . Maybe try online dating, be careful when doing this. The more dates you go on, not only builds your confidence you have that chance of meeting that someone special. So grab your friends and have fun. If children are involved, this is hard for them too. You have to consider their feelings. Let the children know that they are not to blame for the break up . Helping children cope with a divorce is hard work. Be prepared to answer all questions. Go to a therapist and have one on one with family members to help you. There is support and help . Be patient when you bring a new mate around children. this may take sometime, but you can do it . Yes you can !!

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